The Heterofatalism Trap
25th August 2025
On a summer evening in downtown Manhattan, four professional women gather at a vegan restaurant to perform a ritual as old as consciousness itself: the airing of romantic grievances. “Aww, poor baby!” cries one, a historian, as they mock a man too anxious to show up for sex. The women work themselves “into a frenzy of laughter over men’s inability to ‘man up and [expletive] us,’” and ask in a “smug, chauvinistic” way: “Where were the men who could handle hard stuff? Like leaving the house for sex?”
Considering the way men naturally are, if these women are having trouble arranged for sex, where does the problem obviously lie?