Why Every Single Woman Wants to Date a Married Man: Jana Hocking
20th September 2024
Something caught my attention this week that revealed a deep, dark, shameful secret about single women.
Many of us — okay, let me clarify, not me (for once) — seem to be like a bull to a red rag when it comes to married men.
It appears that a wedding ring is seen as a challenge by many. Shame, shame, shameful behavior.
Don’t believe me? I have proof.
You see, it all started during my weekly Instagram Saucy Secrets confessional that I host every Monday night. A guy wrote in and said: “I’ve been married for 2.5 years and I have never had so many women approach me. When I was single I barely got noticed. I don’t like this attention, but is it normal?”
Yes, it is. In evolutionary biology, the term for this is ‘pre-selection’, and (to be clear) the single woman doesn’t want to ‘date a married man’, she wants him to get rid of his current wife (or, these days, girlfriend) and take up with her instead. Women want men than other women want, because the intersexual evaluation process is more work for a woman than for a man (“Is she hot? Is she available?) and so married men are like having a pre-approved mortgage loan when looking to buy a house–the hard work has already been mostly done for them.
This is explained in great detail in Dr. Orion Taraban’s recent book The Value of Others, which I highly recommend.